Creating Transformation

A Life of Power, Purpose and Passion

Live a passionate, independent life. Integrate life, business and relationships. Experience a transformation in your relationships with colleagues, friends, family and partner.

Experience power in your business and be in control of your life. Live life out loud, be fully present, stand with confidence and speak your truth.

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Transition from Marine to Healing Coach
with Tom Kelley

Tom Kelley is a coach, guide, compassionate mentor and pioneer in the field of what’s possible for men today. Since 2004 he has trained with healing arts pioneer Tom Monte, completing 4 Levels of certification as a Compassionate Integration Counselor. He is schooled in the transformational impact of diet, having graduated from the Institute for Integrative Nutrition in New York with a Certificate in Health Coaching. He leads Men’s Awareness and Alternatives to Violence Project workshops for prison inmates and has facilitated transformational men’s groups for years in the New York metro area. In this wide interview he looks at his life and how he made the transition from a marine to a healing coach. He describes his latest project, Open, Deep and True.

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The Courage To Change—To Let Go Of Love

Graham Phoenix writes to a close friend about why the relationship the friend sought did not happen, about what his friend wants in life now.

Journey to the Core of the Masculine: ‘Conversations about Men and Masculinity’ and ‘A 40 Day Challenge for Men’

There are two sections to the book that link together into a unique and powerful whole. The first is a record of a series of conversation my wife, Cheta Urmila, and I had with Christopher Howard on masculinity, sex, addiction and relationships. In them both Chris and myself opened ourselves up in a very personal and revealing way. We held nothing back and explored what it is to be men.

The second section is explored in some detail in the discussions I had with Chris. It is a challenge for men to spend 40 days reflecting on themselves and their life. Read the first section and them set aside time to work on the second, day by day, over 40 days.

5 Star Reviews on Amazon

“Outstanding, insightful and thought-provoking” by David G. Rosenbaum

Exceptional book! I couldn’t put it down. The juxtaposition of conversation with the 40 day challenge and exercise offered not only motivation but momentum to moving swiftly into the daily challenges. My progress in my relationship was immediate and has inspired me to continue growing as I move forward each day. A heartfelt THANK YOU Graham!

Finally. Dialogue to comprehend!!! by Boo Bair

This read with two men telling their stories is amazing. A therapist once told me the most difficult part of being a man was finding other men willing to have an open dialogue. Well here it is. Full of enlightenment. Honesty. Sensitivity, Flowing content. A read for all! Men and women. Men find it difficult to tell their truth to women. Please take the time to download, read, then write your review!!!! I feel strongly that this read needs to be spread far and wide.


5 Steps To a Life of Power, Purpose and Passion


What is your personality, what are your core beliefs? How did your upbringing affect you and constrain your development? What are you passionate about and what affects you deeply?


You have to like who you are and want to be that type of man. This is about accepting yourself, who you are and integrating all your parts. This requires openness and honesty.


You need to bridge the gap between yourself and your vision. Activating this gap is essential to becoming the man you want to be. The changes will be in how you see yourself as a man.


Look at how you relate with other people. The intention should be to be yourself so deeply, that there is no difference between how you are to yourself and how you are with others.


You have created transformation in your life and love where you are. Now you are able to set your sights on ideas that were out of reach before, now you can let your imagination rip.

Experience transformation in your relationships and power in your business.

Be in control of your life, stand with confidence and speak your truth.

Childhood [40 Days]

“As a child I felt myself to be alone, and I am still, because I know things and must hint at things which others apparently know nothing of, and for the most part do not want to know.”
(Carl Jung)

Meditations on Transformation – Day 4
Awareness – Childhood

My memories of childhood are mixed. They are random and, seemingly, unconnected. I do remember never feeling quite good enough, never reaching what others wanted of me, particularly my parents. This is likely to be my imagination, but it is still strong even now.

Our childhood is when we learn how family, friends and society want us to be. It’s when we grow into success or failure. For most people it is the latter that they grow into. They never quite understand what life is for or why they are here. Life becomes about making do.Continue Reading