My life is changing, not the continual change that is always there—the arrow of time—but a dramatic shift that recognises the true me. This has been coming at me as a raging bull, something I can no longer ignore. In order to embrace it I need to acknowledge who I have been, who I am and who I am becoming. I am Purusha: Spiritual Man.
Being young and free… it is something I yearn for because I know I can never go back there. In truth I yearn for it with the knowledge and experience I have today. I never want to go back there in innocence and expectation. I never want to repeat the angst and the pain… I would rather stay happy in my sixties.
I have all the mistakes behind me. I have the experience of the failures under my belt. I have the memories of the joys and the forgetting of the pain. I remember the power of my first sex and forget the anxiety before I had it. What is it like, though, to be young and free. Free of worry? Free of failure? Free of what… perhaps just free of being old and sad!
“You have to learn to recognize your own depth.”
In 1985, mythologist and writer Joseph John Campbell (March 26, 1904–October 30, 1987) sat down with legendary interviewer and idea-monger Bill Moyers for a lengthy conversation at George Lucas’s Skywalker Ranch in California. The result was an amazing journey into ‘How To Find Your Bliss’.
The conversation continued the following year at the American Museum of Natural History in New York. The resulting 24 hours of raw footage were edited down to six one-hour episodes and broadcast on PBS in 1988, shortly after Campbell’s death, in what became one of the most popular series in the history of public television.
Life is a road I travel on and each day I do a little more to create the life I love. However, each day I need to clean up the results of what has gone before.
It is the middle of winter in Spain and it is cold. Living in a typically Spanish house I live without central heating. There is a single wood burning stove in the centre of the house that heats the whole house. It is my job to keep the fire burning and well maintained. Part of this job is to clean the front glass when needed.
Bob Marley, famously, told people to stand up for their rights. To do that he told them to ‘Get Up, Stand Up, Don’t Give Up The Fight!’. You can take this message into your business and create success.
I was going to call this piece ‘Don’t Give Up The Day Job’. I wanted to warn aspiring entrepreneurs against jumping in to their new business too quickly. It seems so easy to jump online, put up a website and talk to the world about what you love. It might be football, travel, sex or anything else your mind can conjure up. Well, it is easy! You can make a decision, get online and be up and running in a day.
The problem is that is likely to be absolutely nobody out there listening to you. If there is nobody listening then there is nobody to be a customer and pay you money.
This is where most people’s dreams come crashing down. That’s OK, as long as you still have your day job! Read more
I look back at the last two months, at the break from MaleXperience, at the lifestyle I have been enjoying. I look at how essential it is to take an over view of your life.
I am interested to know what you do to take a break from what you are doing, from your passion. I am also interested in what concerns you as men.
Let me know what is happening for you and what you seek in MaleXperience. Let me know through the comments, by email or on Facebook. I look forward to your responses and to using them to guide the future of MaleXperience.
Do you live a life of inner power? Do you live life by a guiding set of principles? Or is you life just random and unfocused?
I have been changing my life recently. I have been going through a process of identifying what serves me in life and what doesn’t. I will be writing more on the details of this transformation in a future post, but now I want to outline a simple set of principles that I have adopted to frame how I live.
The context of adopting these principles is that I have wanted to bring more energy and excitement into my life. It is already pretty exciting, but I would never refuse even more. Read more
Mindset is critical to success, you are told, without it you can never make your business work. I have found this to be true, but what is a mindset for success, and how do you make it work for yourself?
My first real experience of a mindset for success was from Tony Robbins. He teaches a simple approach to mindset called ‘The Triad’. ‘The Triad’ is the combination of three elements; focus, language and physiology. Tony teaches that any state you are in, whether happy or sad, excited or depressed, or any other, is caused by the triad you are in. Your state is created by your physiology, focus and language.
If you change any one of those you will change the state you are in.
So if you want to change how you feel you can simply start moving (your physiology), shift what you are thinking about (your focus) or change how you talk about what is happening (your language).
This seemed clear to me and I was able to prove to myself that what he was saying was true. Read more
When was your Spiritual Awareness last challenged? When did you last see your life from a completely different perspective? When did you last wonder where your life was going?
I recently published a list of Ten Blogs for Spiritual Warriors. In it I said that a Spiritual Warrior…
“…embraces noble personal attributes and strengths, he is someone who masters himself, overcomes personal desire, moral issues, and all weaknesses of character. He is someone who embraces a journey of self discovery so he can inspire others as well as enlighten himself.“
Looking back I realise that this is a noble ambition, but maybe one that is out of reach of most people.
I realise that it is out of reach for me.
“Life is really simple, but men insist on making it complicated.“
This is what I have done, made it complicated. I have made the ambition lofty and sufficiently amazing to draw you forward and ensure you never actually get there. Read more
There are times when you need to be letting go of anger, when you need to let go of the necessity of being right. It can take courage to be silent but then you can look yourself in the eye and not flinch.
Some years ago I ran a company along with a business partner. He had founded the company years before and he was proud of what he had achieved.
I put money into the company and trusted what he told me. I did not look too deep because I was proud of what the company did and flattered to be asked to join as a director.
He went off to form a sister company abroad and I was left in charge. This was something I had always wanted, to run my own company, to be the boss.
The company struggled and cash flow fell through the floor. We had obligations to the bank and to others, not least the staff. I came to realise we were insolvent. Read more